Before writing the post, i sent an email to Pierre Dulaine.
I never expected an answer, but i think that it's important to support people who are doing things to change the world.
Even if it's a drop in the ocean, that drop is essential.
That was important to voice out my feelings concerning his work.
The countdown to the next chapter of my life has already started.
I spent a part of the week-end to toss papers belonging to my Crown Height past.
I feel relieved to be free soon.
This morning, i received his reply, and he made, not only my day, but the next months…
"Thank you for this email and my reply to you is GO FOR IT …go do it… I wish you the VERY best in EVERYTHING you do. Just believe in yourself."
I don't need more to remain on the path that i chose.
Despite attacks, bitterness, meanness, spitefulness, jerk-ness or whatever… i never felt the need to stop…
I recently watched a French movie. One of the character is a teacher of philosophy. His girlfriend is a student. She likes helping people, even strangers. I felt close to her, because if i help someone, i just think that i have to do it.
At a moment, he blames her to help these people, because she got into troubles. But he added something like, to help people is very narcissistic.
That troubled me, and i thought of people that i have met who claimed that they like helping people.
I met some narcissists who wondered if help someone will bring them something other than happiness to have done it. They expected to be flattered for their work. That's sad!
What was interesting in this movie, is that she helps without thinking of the consequences of her acts.
When you help strangers, you arrive in their life and you don't know them. You can have an inappropriate and awkward behavior that the strangers won't catch up. They will blame you finally.
You never know the reasons why you help people, it's just something like you do like a duty.
Weirdly, this movie has been shot in the street where i used to live before coming in NY. And in the credits, they were people that i used to work with. Signs, signs, signs… :-)
I found this link by googling "to help people is narcissist" :-)
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/08/04/how-to-spot-a-narcissist/
I did the quiz, i had 6 points. What about yours? :-)
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